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Do you treat yourself the way that you would treat a dear friend? Do you speak to yourself with kindness and compassion? Do you appreciate the fullness of who you are, flaws and all?
Self-compassion is at the foundation of self-love. Accepting ourselves as we are, in the present, even though we make mistakes, even though we're not perfect, actually allows us to move forward and to do the work we need to do on ourselves. Otherwise, we are living in a place of resistance, constantly berating ourselves for being who and how we are. When we are in a place of shame and judgment, our brain's ability to learn and change shuts down. We literally can't move forward.
So how can you begin to practice self-compassion? Start by noticing when you speak to yourself harshly. Notice the sensations in your body when you say these things. Reformulate those statements into statements you would say to a dear friend if they were struggling. Remind yourself that you are human and imperfect and that you make mistakes, just like everyone else. Allow your body to soften the grip of resistance. Feel your breath move through you. Feel a wave of love wash through you with your breath. Remind yourself that you are ok.
We engage in the act of loving ourselves so that we can experience more joy, ease and freedom. We engage in the act of loving ourselves so that we can be more loving and uplifting to the people around us. We engage in the act of loving ourselves so that we can live in a more loving world.
Self-compassion will be the focus of our upcoming virtual retreat. You will learn practical, everyday tools for cultivating a greater sense of compassion and self-love, so that you can live how you want to live, be who you want to be, and love fearlessly with your whole heart.