"We tend to be extremely uncomfortable until things are resolved in some kind of secure and comforting way, either on the side of yes or the side of no." -Pema Chodron
This is the 36th day of quarantine in the state of Michigan. Several times throughout the course of these 36 days, I've found myself waiting for everything to be resolved so that I can relax, return to "normal", move forward with life. And then I realized, if I'm waiting for resolution, I could be waiting for a very. long. time.
It is natural to feel some level of discomfort in the midst of this crazy situation; however, the discomfort is no different from that which we've experienced throughout our entire lives. And, as always, we have a choice. How will we meet that discomfort? Will we even allow ourselves to meet it or will we attempt to resist, withdraw or distract?
When we allow ourselves to embrace the uncertainty of the situation, in other words, when we say, "This is how it is right now. This is my life right now. I accept that I have no clue what is going to happen.", we automatically create a circumstance in which discomfort can begin to soften, perhaps even to dissolve. From that new space, we can move forward with life. We don't have to wait for the end of quarantine to exhale.
We always have the opportunity to deepen and enrich our relationship with ourselves, but especially now. How will we choose to relate to our own discomfort? Will we embrace uncertainty? Will we meet life as it is right now and move forward, making choices rooted in love?
Finding comfort with uncertainty isn't easy. There are tools that can be used to make it seem more doable. To support you in this endeavor, we created More Love: Finding comfort with uncertainty. It is a virtual class taking place on May 21st and we'd be delighted to have you join us.
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