Hidden amongst the pages of a mediocre murder mystery that I downloaded onto my kindle for free was this gem of a phrase: "You have to make yourself whole. No one else can." This is Love Body. We don't need anyone else to tell us that we're ok. We don't need anyone else to tell us that we're enough. No one else can give us the experience of loving ourselves; we must return to it on our own. Even if our loved ones tell us over and over that we are good/beautiful/loved, it's not the same as actually feeling it. Even knowing it is not the same as feeling it. We can know it intellectually, but if it hasn't become integrated into our being, it's as if it's not true.
How do we go about returning to wholeness? It's not as if we were ever un-whole, we just got pulled out of the experience of wholeness. We carry so many false beliefs about ourselves and our bodies around with us every day. We have so many narratives about our worth and our capabilities and our lives and our identities that run through our minds over and over. How do we start to unwrite, unravel, unbelieve?
Try this simple exercise: Throughout the day, notice all of the negative things that you say about yourself and actually write them down. It might be a bit shocking and sad, but write them all down. At the end of the day, go through each one and ask yourself, "Do I actually believe this about myself? Is this true?" You can erase and cross out things that are simply untrue, a first step in letting go. Then, next to or under each one, write down a compassionate statement, a little bit of kindness and understanding and acceptance of yourself.
Real example from my life:
"I'm a shitty person because I didn't get enough done today. I'm wasting my whole life." Do I believe this? No. Next to it, I write. I'm struggling with being super productive for a variety of reasons, including global pandemic and what I did today is enough. And the amount I produce has nothing to do with my worth as a human. Everyone struggles. Everyone's worth is inherent.
This is just a start. To fully release the beliefs that leave us feeling less than whole and to restore our sense of fullness and enoughness, we have to take it into the body. We must embody the release, acceptance, intergration and wholeness. That's what we'll be doing next week. I hope you can join us for More Love: The Yoga of Letting Go.
We'll keep sending little bits like this to support your journey of restoring wholeness.
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