softening self-hatred

Do you ever catch yourself turning a small thing into a mega-disaster?  For example, over the past few days, I have been procrastinating completing a big assignment for a training program.  Several times, I had to interrupt the "I hate myself" thought pattern that has historically popped up in my awareness when I do something less than perfect and replace it with, "I'm struggling."  Immediately, the self-hatred energy diffuses and is replaced with compassion.  I'm struggling.  It's ok.  I'm human.  I don't need to add layers upon layers of thought, judgment and emotion to the circumstance.  It can simply be, "I'm struggling with this right now."  

Do you find yourself catastrophizing simple struggles?  Does a trivial misstep turn into, "I hate myself."?  Does an ongoing struggle translate as, "I'm an awful person."?  Challenges can easily be catastrophized, but, with mindfulness training, we can interrupt that pattern and choose another way.  Say you're struggling with a food-related behavior: instead of, "I hate myself", how about, "this is hard for me right now.  I'm still working on it."? 

Pattern interruption, and mindfulness in general, becomes more and more our way of operating in the world when we are engaged in a daily meditation practice.  We naturally, more and more, begin to catch ourselves spiraling and catastrophizing and we consciously choose a different way.  Taking the time to sit in meditation daily takes discipline and it can be challenging to do without support.  That's why I offer free meditation drop-ins Monday-Thursday at 8am.  Can't make it?  I'll be teaching meditation as part of More Love: A mini self-care retreat this Thursday March 12th.  

We're here to support you in softening self-hatred, interrupting deeply ingrained patterning and moving forward with more joy and ease.

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